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  • drhcnip 17 Oct 2020 10:17:55 6,476 posts
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    been away from here so long, i think it's because I've hardly gamed all year

    wanted to drop back in, though, as many of you have been so kind and supportive to me & my daughter over the last few years, so it felt right

    Heather (mrs hcnip) passed away early yesterday morning in Clatterbridge hospital, Liverpool after a three and a half year battle with cancer. She deteriorated very quickly over the last 48 hours but died calmly and peacefully in her sleep. Her poor body had just had enough of coping with it all -all the medications, treatments, investigations etc etc, especially in the last 6 months. In the end, it happened very quickly and almost unexpectedly as the doctors were still planning the next lines of treatment but, to be honest, I'm grateful for the speed of it for her sake. Meg, our daughter, & I were both lucky to have been with her Thursday evening when she was still communicating and Meg was able to tell her she loved her & to say goodbye and I'm immensely proud of her for doing so, considering the dark place she was in a few years back. She's an incredible and brilliant young lady that I'm privileged and lucky to have by my side in the times ahead...

    as i say, i'll catch up with the stories above but, to be brief, i wish each and every one of you dealing with cancer, or supporting a loved one in their fight, the very, very best and send you the manliest man hugs possible

    tony
  • JonFE 17 Oct 2020 10:24:28 2,030 posts
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    Tony, I'm really sorry for your loss, may she rest in peace :(

    John
  • JamboWayOh 17 Oct 2020 10:27:33 21,097 posts
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    @drhcnip

    Oh mate, I am so, so sorry to hear this. I did wonder where you had been all this time. My thoughts are with you and your daughter and I'm sending you twice the hugs. I understand you won't be on here much but if you ever feel the need just to chat, we're all here for you mate, that I guarantee.
  • richarddavies 17 Oct 2020 10:28:52 7,943 posts
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    Times like this where I'm just at a loss for words. Sounds like you and your family have been amazing and so brave through it.

    Sorry seems like such a small word, but it's all i have....
  • TechnoHippy 17 Oct 2020 10:29:06 17,842 posts
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    @drhcnip My condolences too. I always dread this thread being updated :-(
  • drhcnip 17 Oct 2020 10:52:29 6,476 posts
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    thanks, folks - it's been a long old fight and she was still battling away inside, i could see that on Thursday in her eyes...but yes, time for her to rest now x
  • Frogofdoom 17 Oct 2020 10:57:13 16,955 posts
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    Thats so fucking sad.

    You have been taking care of her for a long time now, just make sure you look after yourself too now :(
  • Vortex808 17 Oct 2020 11:35:57 14,109 posts
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    :-(

    So sorry to read that.
  • alt-cmd-esc 17 Oct 2020 11:42:42 527 posts
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    Sincere condolences, Tony
  • Dougs 17 Oct 2020 11:44:42 95,995 posts
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    Oh man. I'm so sorry to hear this. You (and your daughter) have my utmost respect and admiration for how you've dealt and are dealing with this. As frog says, make sure you take some time for yourself when you can too.
  • Chug666 17 Oct 2020 12:03:24 720 posts
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    Sorry man, thoughts to you and your daughter.
  • Steve-Perry 17 Oct 2020 12:05:55 2,040 posts
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    @drhcnip thoughts are with you both. That's something you shouldn't have to deal with until later life. I hope you both get through it all.
  • dominalien 17 Oct 2020 12:09:23 9,936 posts
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    Oh, thatís just awful. So sorry dr.

    Itís heartening you have someone with you in all this.
  • Fake_Blood 17 Oct 2020 12:22:26 10,620 posts
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    So very sorry to hear this news Tony.
    I hope you and your daughter can find some peace and quiet after this war you've been fighting.
  • ZuluHero 17 Oct 2020 12:24:14 9,252 posts
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    Such a terrible update, not seen you on in a while, but wasn't expecting this. Really hope you're managing as best you can and take care of your daughter, she sounds like a trooper.

    Sending all the manly virtual hugs I can.
  • drhcnip 17 Oct 2020 12:26:32 6,476 posts
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    aye, 47 is no age really but it was time for her to go, her body was exhausted and failing

    bless you all for your kindness, i truly appreciate it
  • DUFFMAN5 17 Oct 2020 12:28:48 26,216 posts
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    Tony, I was just thinking I have not seen you for ages. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss mate. Words mean so little at this time (especially from a game playing nerd, albeit we have been "virtual friends" on here for years and years) but I am devastated for you, your daughter and wider family.

    xx
  • StixxUK 17 Oct 2020 12:31:11 8,403 posts
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    Condolences, that must be incredibly hard to deal with. Take care of yourself and your daughter.
  • Phattso 17 Oct 2020 12:33:56 25,939 posts
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    My heart sank when I saw the bump. :(

    For whatever itís worth, I offer my sincere condolences. Wishing you both lighter days ahead.
  • drhcnip 17 Oct 2020 12:42:48 6,476 posts
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    it's a complete dichotomy, this thread - gives such support and inspiration but, as you say, each and every time it appears, it's a horrible sight

    we'll be ok, i know, with time

    lovely words, folks, thank you
  • challenge_hanukkah 17 Oct 2020 12:49:11 13,166 posts
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    Sorry for your loss.
  • quadfather 17 Oct 2020 13:33:36 37,031 posts
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    Awful news. So sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you and your daughter have better times going forward.
  • Globalmeltdown 17 Oct 2020 14:49:59 831 posts
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    So very sorry about your loss, thinking of you and your family.
  • barchetta 17 Oct 2020 20:54:08 2,810 posts
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    @drhcnip so sorry to hear the news and hope you and your daughter stay strong for each other.

    I know families are all different, but I hope you find the strength and courage to be open with each other and talk things over when needed. It took me the best part of 20 years until I found it comfortable to talk of my mum (lost her to cancer back in the early 80s when I was 11) and I wish weíd been more open - to be able to remember and laugh about the good times.

    Thoughts are with you.
  • Jono62 17 Oct 2020 20:58:11 25,760 posts
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    Sorry for your loss, Tony.

    Edited by Jono62 at 20:58:41 17-10-2020
  • drhcnip 17 Oct 2020 21:08:51 6,476 posts
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    thanks again, everyone - luckily, we've always been very open in this house and can talk about things like this...does help when your wife is a bereavement and suicide therapist...;)

    meg, despite her struggles a few years back, when this community was so kind to her in her lego hunt, has recovered an awful lot and is strong enough to be a constant rock for me...together we will get through this but on our own terms and in our own time...x
  • Armoured_Bear 17 Oct 2020 21:09:20 29,126 posts
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    @drhcnip
    II'm really sorry to read your news, I send my condolences and hope everything goes as well as it possibly can in the future.
  • wuntyate 17 Oct 2020 22:18:20 15,468 posts
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    @drhcnip Sincerest condolences to you and your daughter. Words never seem enough. So sorry.
  • LegendaryApe 17 Oct 2020 22:20:58 2,131 posts
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    My sincerest condolences
  • the_milkybar_kid 17 Oct 2020 22:55:56 8,318 posts
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    Sending nothing but love and strength to you and your daughter mate. I know how difficult it is seeing someone you hold dear struggle but I wish you the very best. Be there for each other and we'll undoubtedly be here for you.

    The moto in Stoke is Vis Unita Fortior- United strength is stronger.
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