Wobble wrote:Sums up how things are at home for me right now. Only last week I suddenly asked myself "what if he comes early!?". |
Becoming a father. • Page 3
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JBlokeUK 2,316 posts
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thedaveeyres 13,925 posts
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Registered 15 years agoBlaketown wrote:
localnotail wrote:
I may be breaking a Club rule but my wife regularly reads the Dad's Club threads and says it is way more helpful than the likes of Mumsnet for exactly those reasons. The mum forums just aren't honest enough about the negative thoughts and emotions that crop up now and again.
It's hard to talk to my female friends at the moment though, they are all "It's so beautiful and natural" and baby-obsessed, it's like there is some kind of unwritten rule that you are not allowed to be worried about stuff or question your natural ability to be some maternal goddess. They do not accept doubt.
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Wobble 1,028 posts
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Registered 16 years agoJBlokeUK wrote:
5/9 couples in our NCT group have already popped, all early! It was freaking the mrs out until this weekend when we finally finished everything and packed everything, now she is mad that she thinks she is going to be late
Sums up how things are at home for me right now. Only last week I suddenly asked myself "what if he comes early!?".
I'm trying to work out what games will be best for the next year, I suppose quick pick up and put down arcadey stuff to rule out resentment from the frequent interuptions. -
Nasty 4,840 posts
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Registered 17 years agoScurrminator wrote:
It's fun. Honest.
The bit I'm more worried about is when they turn 13 and become an insufferable cunt. The bits before that I'm looking forward to! -
Dougs 100,414 posts
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Registered 18 years ago2 Weeks early should be fine. They're fully baked by 37 Weeks. -
Scurrminator 9,045 posts
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Registered 16 years agoLocal, just join our group. We don't care. It's there for people to moan and ask questions. Plus you can get an insight into the mind of man and offer us tips! -
JBlokeUK 2,316 posts
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Registered 11 years agoI've read that at 37 weeks they are pretty much ready to pop.
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jonsaan 27,052 posts
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sport 17,064 posts
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Registered 16 years agoWas recently in the "premature" ward at Barnet Hos, and there was a little guy there who popped out at 26 weeks - he weighed around a pound and few ounces. Poor thing has been in the incubator for about 4 months now - mother practically lives at the hospital 
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Salaman 24,162 posts
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Registered 17 years agoBlaketown wrote:
Ban please!
localnotail wrote:
I may be breaking a Club rule but my wife regularly reads the Dad's Club threads and says it is way more helpful than the likes of Mumsnet for exactly those reasons. The mum forums just aren't honest enough about the negative thoughts and emotions that crop up now and again.
It's hard to talk to my female friends at the moment though, they are all "It's so beautiful and natural" and baby-obsessed, it's like there is some kind of unwritten rule that you are not allowed to be worried about stuff or question your natural ability to be some maternal goddess. They do not accept doubt.
I don't have any objections to local becoming an honorary dad's club member tbf. If she gets all mumsnetsy on us we can always boot her..gif)
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Vortex808 15,593 posts
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Registered 13 years agoScurrminator wrote:
This. It's one of the best bits of the forum IMO. For getting advice, venting, sympathy and for laughs.
Local, just join our group. We don't care.
On topic, having kids is tough, but brilliant. The first 3 months or so was hell, but it improves every day. 6 weeks made a psychological difference to me when they start smiling (or was it just gas?). It made all the hard work seem worthwhile. Watching all their milestones like first steps, words etc is just so amazing.
Our wee lad is rapidly heading for 5 and the extra banter and laughs that can be had now are just brilliant.
So many folk have already given so many good pointers already, but I'll reiterate about mooching stuff from friends or buying second hand from NCT sales. They grow so fast, and you get so much stuff that half of it's like new and you barely use it all! -
Blaketown 5,658 posts
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Registered 14 years agosport wrote:
Yeah, worst week of my life was the one spent in the pre-natal ward. The stuff of nightmares.
Was recently in the "premature" ward at Barnet Hos, and there was a little guy there who popped out at 26 weeks - he weighed around a pound and few ounces. Poor thing has been in the incubator for about 4 months now - mother practically lives at the hospital
Anyway, positivity!
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MetalDog 24,076 posts
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Registered 20 years agothedaveeyres wrote:
I was just thinking how much some parents remind me of pod people =D
I'd be a horrible mother. The biggest favour I can do my kids is not having them. -
Fatherhood's bloody great (2 girls here, 5 and almost 3). It's not as tiring as some make out but it's a challenge at times
I'll give a shout out to home births and midwife led units though. Doctors and hospitals are seriously good at fucking things up. Neither of mine were born in a hospital -
Blaketown 5,658 posts
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Registered 14 years agoOf course, my wife could have died had we not been in a hospital so swings and roundabouts and all that.
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I'd sooner brush my teeth with a shotgun than have kids but congrats to all the rest of you. -
mrpon 37,366 posts
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Registered 15 years agoProbably for the best. -
doctor_nick 237 posts
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Registered 16 years agoThread of the day, no question. My lad (19 months now) was born at home and it was a good experience for all, so I'd say worth considering if there are no complications. The Mum has a choice of all her own stuff (and food) and a lot more freedom. And there's a real jolt when I remember he was born in the exact spot we're now pressing playdough into the floor or whatever...
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nickthegun 87,711 posts
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Registered 16 years agoRhythm wrote:
'Neither of my children have been born in a hospital but I have experience of hospitals being good at fucking things up'.
I'll give a shout out to home births and midwife led units though. Doctors and hospitals are seriously good at fucking things up. Neither of mine were born in a hospital
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PatrickEwing 2,553 posts
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Registered 15 years agoNot the playdough, get's everywhere! Especially when you think it's a good idea to make 100's of green peas out of the green one. -
doctor_nick wrote:
To be fair you should really get some carpet cleaner on that bloody stain. What must visitors think?
And there's a real jolt when I remember he was born in the exact spot we're now pressing playdough into the floor or whatever... -
doctor_nick 237 posts
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Dougs 100,414 posts
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Registered 18 years agoBlaketown wrote:
Yep, my son was 7 (or 8 depending on who you believe at the hospital) Weeks early and was in NICU for 4 Weeks. The first 48 hours were hell, after that it was just patience. As someone in the.Group said to me at the time, once they're out, you'll find it hard to even remember what it was like. Wise words indeed.
sport wrote:
Yeah, worst week of my life was the one spent in the pre-natal ward. The stuff of nightmares.
Was recently in the "premature" ward at Barnet Hos, and there was a little guy there who popped out at 26 weeks - he weighed around a pound and few ounces. Poor thing has been in the incubator for about 4 months now - mother practically lives at the hospital
Anyway, positivity!
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JBlokeUK 2,316 posts
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Registered 11 years agoI've heard a lot about how the first child is late a lot of the time. My wife is having a c-section so we already know the day and time, unless he actually decides to come early! -
sam_spade 15,745 posts
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Blaketown 5,658 posts
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Blakester 5,234 posts
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Registered 17 years agoHah, this thread doesn't half take me back.
The first day home with baby is very intense. At the hospital you have a button by the bed and if you're not sure what to do, you press it and the nurse comes and helps (feeding, nappy changing, baby screaming etc, etc).
When you get home there's no button so suddenly you have to deal with it. I remember feeling very isolated and scared, but those feelings eventually disappear.
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Clive_Dunn 4,862 posts
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Registered 18 years agoI think that anyone who doesn't worry about the level of responsibility that bringing up a child involves, hasn't really thought enough about it.
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magicpanda 15,130 posts
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Registered 17 years agoGood thread! We have around 4 weeks to go. It's due to pop out right between our birthdays. I'm 16th and she is the 29th.
The naming discussion has been going on for 4 months and we are still no closer to coming up with one..gif)
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Just as an aside, the learning curve goes off the chart when they hit about 2-2½. It then takes another spike at around 5.
My kids are 2½ and 5. :'(
The other day my eldest son spat at me.
You just wait.
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