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M83J01P97 7 Jul 2014 11:35:55 7,607 posts
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Just want to back up the whole 'Trust' thing a lot of others have said.

My best friend went through a similar situation a few months ago with his fiancee when he discovered she had been sleeping around with a work colleague.

She promised it was over and they agreed to put a line under it and move on, but the next few months of his life were miserable for him, rightfully not trusting a single thing she did and eventually he couldn't take it anymore and broke things off.

And while he is single now, he's happy because of it as he's learnt in retrospect that he couldn't build a life with someone he knew had willingly been unfaithful during the relationship.

It's a little harder for you if kids are involved... and, as you've said, she apparently has only been fooling around (that's still very wrong in my eyes and sounds like a cop out).

But you need to think of yourself first and foremost. Do you want to move on and have a future with a woman who has shown she is capable of being unfaithful towards you?

Sounds like she had plenty of time to stop the 'affair' with this stranger if it was only texts to begin with... but she didn't, she took things further, and even lied to you during the whole process.

You need to keep all of that in mind if you want to try and repair things between the two of you.

brokenkey 7 Jul 2014 11:36:14 11,128 posts
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If you decide you want to stay together, and she agrees, then insist she takes lessons in covering her tracks a bit better.

Psiloc 7 Jul 2014 11:38:16 6,368 posts
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tincanrocket wrote:

Dirtbox wrote:
Oh, and checking the phone bill and all that shit - just don't bother, it's fucking unhealthy and you'll torture yourself by being suspicious of every tiny thing. Even if there was a chance it'll work out, it never will if you do that because you'll drive her away with paranoid bullshit.
Absolutely this ^^

I agree in the sense that "you should trust her enough that you shouldn't have to". Obviously he doesn't, and shouldn't, since this is precisely how he caught her in the first place.

Devastated 7 Jul 2014 11:39:59 19 posts
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I have his mobile number is there any way to reverse lookup his name or locate it via gps?

nickthegun 7 Jul 2014 11:40:38 87,711 posts
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And then what? Go around to his house and have a go at him for trying to pork a married woman?

Devastated 7 Jul 2014 11:41:40 19 posts
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No but if it continues I want to tell his wife, why should I suffer while he gets away scot free?

mrpon 7 Jul 2014 11:43:23 37,367 posts
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Backtracing the IP?

Stickman 7 Jul 2014 11:43:37 29,986 posts
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Don't get involved in that shit. Delete the guy from your life completely. Easier said than done, but you have to for your own sanity.

Ziz0u 7 Jul 2014 11:43:42 11,006 posts
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Fuck his wife.

Devastated 7 Jul 2014 11:43:48 19 posts
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mrpon wrote:
Backtracing the IP?

???

sport 7 Jul 2014 11:44:44 17,064 posts
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mrpon wrote:
Backtracing the IP?

Wouldn't bother, he's probably using a Trace Buster.

@Dev - don't go down this road man.

brokenkey 7 Jul 2014 11:44:58 11,128 posts
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@Devastated ring it from two phones simultaneously and see if he's left his name on his voicemail?

CosmicFuzz 7 Jul 2014 11:45:48 32,632 posts
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Devastated wrote:
No but if it continues I want to tell his wife, why should I suffer while he gets away scot free?

Don't. That is something that will feel great for a fraction of a second, and then you will hate yourself for breaking up another family just to make yourself feel better.

M83J01P97 7 Jul 2014 11:45:59 7,607 posts
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Devastated wrote:
I have his mobile number is there any way to reverse lookup his name or locate it via gps?

You'll have to get Chloe on that one, but be carful Jack, the Russians are onto you.

Dirtbox 7 Jul 2014 11:47:06 92,599 posts
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brokenkey 7 Jul 2014 11:47:29 11,128 posts
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Heh, some fucker just left a silent call on my voicemai.

Edited by brokenkey at 11:47:52 07-07-2014

sport 7 Jul 2014 11:47:53 17,064 posts
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Dirtbox wrote:
Create a GUI in visual basic.

RAD FTW!!

phAge 7 Jul 2014 11:49:15 25,487 posts
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CosmicFuzz wrote:

Devastated wrote:
No but if it continues I want to tell his wife, why should I suffer while he gets away scot free?
Don't. That is something that will feel great for a fraction of a second, and then you will hate yourself for breaking up another family just to make yourself feel better.

I'm tempted to say "this", but OTOH there is an argument that how wife deserves to know what kind of guy she's with.

On the whole I'd let it go, though - focus on getting your own relationship back on track.

nickthegun 7 Jul 2014 11:51:21 87,711 posts
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Tbf, as shitty as it is, i would totally spread the misery too, making sure every parties existence was a horrible as humanly possible.

brokenkey 7 Jul 2014 11:52:45 11,128 posts
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Waffleaber 7 Jul 2014 11:53:17 826 posts
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Post his number on 4chan*

*Do not do this.

Devastated 7 Jul 2014 11:54:54 19 posts
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Waffleaber wrote:
Post his number on 4chan*

*Do not do this.

Actually that's very very tempting

fletch7100 7 Jul 2014 11:57:24 8,372 posts
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M83J01P97 wrote:

Devastated wrote:
I have his mobile number is there any way to reverse lookup his name or locate it via gps?
You'll have to get Chloe on that one, but be carful Jack, the Russians are onto you.

Can you ring the number and play the clip from Taken

mrpon 7 Jul 2014 12:02:46 37,367 posts
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Add his number to your contacts. Download and install WhatsApp. Browse the contacts within WhatsApp, he may have a profile pic.

brokenkey 7 Jul 2014 12:03:11 11,128 posts
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fletch7100 wrote:

Can you ring the number and play the clip from Tekken

"Nina wins!"

Edited by brokenkey at 12:07:27 07-07-2014

sport 7 Jul 2014 12:04:36 17,064 posts
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mrpon

Dirtbox 7 Jul 2014 12:04:52 92,599 posts
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Dougs 7 Jul 2014 12:08:29 100,414 posts
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Yeah, I'd say don't go down that road. It will make you feel better but won't change things for you

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