I am 35 and I have my 1st ever driving lesson in the morning Page 6

  • bad09 9 Jun 2018 11:27:53 8,581 posts
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    @DUFFMAN5

    Thanks mate.

    Took our car out this morning and it felt weird as fuck driving without my instructor :)
  • Ienjoysquid 12 Jun 2018 10:50:16 238 posts
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    Fake_Blood wrote:


    Drive up to the car in front until your front wheels reach the mirror of that car.
    Turn wheels full right, then reverse and look in your left mirror, if you can see the right headlamp of the car behind you turn the wheels full left and reverse.
    I was going to post on here to see if anyone could still parallel park after passing their test, this is the most useful thing I have ever seen. I probably still can't do it though.

    The last time I successfully completed this manoeuvre I did it under pressure grabbing the last space, blocking traffic both ways and miraculously fitted in with inches to spare front and back.

    It looked like the two cars I had parked between had driven up and blocked me in I was in there so snugly.

    I haven't been able to park in the space left for a bus since so I must have used it all up.
  • bad09 17 Jun 2018 13:06:07 8,581 posts
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    Fucking hell just did my first bit of motorway driving 😮 wasnt planned, getting some A road practice driving to a nice country pub for lunch eith the family and took a wrong turn on the way so the sat nav sent on the M25 :)

    Good practice for my holiday to looe in July though so the wrong turn turned out well.
  • Carlo 17 Jun 2018 13:07:18 20,383 posts
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    Just do some hot laps on Gran Turismo and you'll be more than ready. Real cars handle very similarly
  • fontgeeksogood 17 Jun 2018 13:13:59 3,750 posts
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    The important thing is to brake sharply so the weight transfers over the front wheels, then boot the throttle and turn to get the rear wheels out and start the slide.

    Of course, amateurs and so-called "driving instructors" will tell you that you shouldn't powerslide / drift all the way around the M25 but that's just the nanny state for you
  • bad09 17 Jun 2018 13:17:40 8,581 posts
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    Carlo wrote:
    Just do some hot laps on Gran Turismo and you'll be more than ready. Real cars handle very similarly
    You joke but project cars 2, a g29 and the rift actually helped me while learning :)
  • Psiloc 18 Jun 2018 12:11:43 4,888 posts
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    Fake_Blood wrote:


    Drive up to the car in front until your front wheels reach the mirror of that car.
    Turn wheels full right, then reverse and look in your left mirror, if you can see the right headlamp of the car behind you turn the wheels full left and reverse.
    I'm getting GTA 1 flashbacks
  • StaffyDog 19 Jun 2018 09:43:59 1,555 posts
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    I passed on my first attempt, probably due to me having a motorbike for 10 years previous and taking a diazepam before the test😄
  • bad09 23 Jun 2018 21:22:42 8,581 posts
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    Been waiting for the post for 2 weeks like a 12 year old waiting for his latest live service, ultimate edition pre-order triple A tripe to be delivered and finally, finally this morning my pink full license turned up today. At 42 I feel complete.....and was quite gutted the wife was driving today.

    Funny thing was I was cleaning the inside and checking tyres today and needed the car off a drain grill to check tyre pressure.....with only 2 weeks passed and at that point this morning still no license I caught myself reminding myself I could get in and reverse it...myself :)

    Edited by bad09 at 21:23:29 23-06-2018
  • Fake_Blood 23 Jun 2018 22:23:47 9,107 posts
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    Congrats bad09, now I'm going to give the advice I give to all drivers I meet, and that is to always move bitch get out the way.
  • bbvDJC 23 Jun 2018 22:41:07 2,000 posts
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    Booked my first lessons in at age 27, Iím a bit nervous to be honest!
  • Ror 24 Jun 2018 12:53:15 17,885 posts
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    @bbvDJC It's natural to be nervous, but your instructor is there to teach you :p Just try to relax, pay attention, and you'll be fine. Before you know it, you'll probably realise you actually enjoy driving. Good luck!

    And grats bad09.
  • bad09 24 Jun 2018 13:15:59 8,581 posts
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    Yeah like Ror says it's normal, I was bricking it before my first lesson. Your instructor will look after you though so just enjoy it. Good luck!
  • K-Project 3 Jul 2018 12:50:11 457 posts
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    Fuck me I'm 45 and I've passed today! I can't believe it.

    Failed twice before on stupid, stupid errors. Thought I'd failed this time as some enterprising idiot clipped my mirror as they thundered through me on a small road. Luckily I'd stopped as I saw the problem, and the examiner said because I'd stopped it was their fault.

    Yay! Feels odd though. Should have done it 20 years ago. I'm half expecting a phone call to say "sorry, there's been a terrible mistake"... :D
  • Ror 3 Jul 2018 12:55:27 17,885 posts
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    @K-Project Wahey! Congrats!
  • K-Project 3 Jul 2018 13:00:39 457 posts
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    Thanks! It feels weird! Like, I now have to move a car without that bloke sitting next to me going "turn left, turn right"... I expect that will be the scariest bit tbh.

    This is the oddest feeling though. I feel like all the plans I made were for dealing with another failure. I'm a bit "well now what do I do"? Get on the missus' insurance I suppose. Oh and try not to crash the thing!
  • Ror 3 Jul 2018 13:13:44 17,885 posts
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    Yeah, the first time you drive on your own will feel odd - like you're missing a safety net, or something. But you know what you're doing!


    Best thing to do is just to get out there and drive around locally for a bit to get used to it without having to worry about getting lost :D
  • bad09 3 Jul 2018 13:20:40 8,581 posts
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    @K-Project

    Congratulations!!! Well done!

    I bet the speeding idiot was in a BMW. Had some twat clip my mirrors this weekend because he was speeding down a country lane and the other week another twat did the same thing to my wife. Both times a fucking BMW driver.....
  • nickthegun 3 Jul 2018 13:24:25 75,878 posts
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    K-Project wrote:
    I'm half expecting a phone call to say "sorry, there's been a terrible mistake"... :D
    I think thats applicable at any age. When I passed, the drive home from the test centre felt more like a getaway.
  • bad09 3 Jul 2018 13:25:06 8,581 posts
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    Ror wrote:
    Yeah, the first time you drive on your own will feel odd - like you're missing a safety net, or something. But you know what you're doing!


    Best thing to do is just to get out there and drive around locally for a bit to get used to it without having to worry about getting lost :D
    It's so bloody weird, I know I only passed just over 3 weeks ago it still feels weird to just get in the car and drive. I'm OK once in the car but I'm finding 42 years of "I'm not a driver" mentality is really hard to break out of :)
  • Toaster05 3 Jul 2018 15:28:01 1,974 posts
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    I passed my test last November at the age of 43. I think I've driven less than 50miles since. For some reason I just can't face driving.

    I know I passed my test (2 minors) but I still feel like a fraud.

    Despite people telling me 'just get out and do it' I just can't.

    It feels like a have a 6k garden gnome parked on my drive.
  • bad09 3 Jul 2018 15:56:15 8,581 posts
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    @Toaster05

    You do need to just get out and do it TBH (everyone is saying the same thing to me when I talk about nerves and it really is true) but maybe give pass plus a go to boost your own driving confidence. Do you have P plates on? letting others know you are a new driver can help with confidence at this early stage.

    Remember though, you passed because you showed the examiner you can drive so don't feel like a fraud. Sure you are a beginner and will make mistakes but you've proven you can drive so try not to doubt yourself.
  • Ror 3 Jul 2018 17:33:30 17,885 posts
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    I never bothered with P plates. The way other drivers act when they see L plates, my thinking was, "fuck letting any bastard know I'm a new driver!"

    But to Toaster05 I would say, as I said to K-Project, just try and get out and drive locally. You'll know the area, so should feel more comfortable around home. Just get out, even if it's for ten minutes at a pop, and it'll help you get used to it and build up confidence. You don't have to suddenly jump to motorway driving or anything, just take your time and get comfortable behind the wheel
  • Fake_Blood 3 Jul 2018 17:48:29 9,107 posts
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    If you get better at it, motorway driving is actually the easy part. Yes you are going fast, but the relative speed between you and the other cars is pretty low.
  • K-Project 3 Jul 2018 18:40:04 457 posts
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    Toaster05 wrote:
    I passed my test last November at the age of 43. I think I've driven less than 50miles since. For some reason I just can't face driving.

    I know I passed my test (2 minors) but I still feel like a fraud.

    Despite people telling me 'just get out and do it' I just can't.

    It feels like a have a 6k garden gnome parked on my drive.
    This I do have some experience of, as when the missus passed this time last year she had spent the best part of two years dealing with anxiety. Learning to drive was for her a way of combating it, however passing the test was just the first hurdle. She bought the car pretty quickly which surprised me but I could easily envisage a situation where she would just not bother at all. However as I expected she wouldn't drive it. It sat outside the house doing nowt, and seemed to make her anxiety worse.

    But then slowly she started to sort of find it. It really helped that our daughter got herself a job and started asking for lifts. Truth be told that was my fault - I told her to do it. Your mum won't always be happy about it I said, but it's important that you keep asking. She can only say no. Over the year since passing she has grown in confidence, to the point where she's just taken us away to Scotland on a beautiful trip, after quite some time on the motorway, and spent a lot of time gadding about from town to village there.

    There's no point me saying "you have to just do it!" because that will make it worse. But hopefully over time you can start to slowly discover what you have, and eventually the car parked outside will start to feel less like a dragon needing taming. FWIW I've spoken to loads of people who, after passing, took an age to feel actually comfortable driving their own car. One lady I work with said it sat there for months completely untouched until she got fed up with herself. At least you have 50 miles up on her! :)
  • Toaster05 3 Jul 2018 19:46:47 1,974 posts
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    The oddity of it all is that I had zero confidence issues during my lessons and none what so ever on the test.

    I was never overly confident or bricking it to the point of not wanting to do it, so to have these feeling towards driving now seem so silly to the point of being irrational.

    One other odd point is that I have had to over the years gain multiple licences for FLT's and manual handling equipment, which in the wrong hands can be utterly lethal and yet I'd jump on any of that without issue.

    What never helped was people expectations on me to be bombing up and down the motorway from day one. The more people asked about my driving the more I resisted it.

    I'm sure I'll get there, but I just have to push myself as no one can do it for me.

    You'd think the monthly insurance payout each month would inspire me.

    With regard to P plates. No, I don't think I'd touch them. Having experienced how other drivers react to L plates P plates just seem to be giving them more ammo.
  • bad09 3 Jul 2018 20:10:07 8,581 posts
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    I have to be honest when my wife first passed and we bought a car she had to drive back on the M25 (her first motorway exerprience) I believe in the p plate. We bought the car from a mechanic friend and picked up in the sticks of surrey. Driving it back he escorted us back to london. we filled up and he said she should have them.

    People do give you time and room. Sure some arseholes don't but you did the lessons. You did the test. These cunts are there for everyone sadly. Hello BMW and Audi drivers you utter wank scum....

    P plates help others decide and react on you and it is great to let others know you are just learning. Ours have been on since my wife passed and will stay on until we both feel comfortable taking them off.

    Should be law like other countries IMO.

    Edited by bad09 at 20:11:36 03-07-2018
  • thelzdking 3 Jul 2018 20:26:19 8,708 posts
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    I'm next for this thread.
  • bad09 4 Jul 2018 11:23:52 8,581 posts
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    @thelzdking

    Good Luck! :)
  • nickthegun 4 Jul 2018 11:52:17 75,878 posts
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    I don't think P plates are necessarily a bad idea. I followed a teenager in some tiny little Noddy car home from work the other day, doing 40 in a national speed limit, taking an age to pull out at junctions and whatnot and I think all the honking drivers behind me would have cut her more slack if she had p plates.

    Maybe she was just a shit driver, but benefit of the doubt and all that.

    And I was driving a BMW. Maybe when you graduate onto a big boy car, you'll see the appeal.
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