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Hello. First some background: While i am a qualified private investigator (and doing better out of it than i thought i would when i took the home learning course) to make ends meet i work in an office environment 35 hours a week dealing with insurance claims. This is shift work. Ten hour shifts, on a 'two on, two off' basis. There are eight of us who do this job, and each person has one colleague who they are teamed with and always work with. Due to somebody leaving, the management are looking at moving the pairings, and there is a strong possibility that i will end up paired with a woman who i dislike. I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to best go about avoiding this. This particular woman fancies me. I'm not being big-headed, but she does. My colleagues who i actually like tell me about comments she makes about me when i'm not in the office, and on the occasion that i am working with her, i catch her gazing at me. Longingly. It's also worth noting that at the Christmas party, the office manager warned her about sexual harassment when she tried to remove my jacket. Complicating matters more, is the fact that the change to the shift pairings needs to be made imminently, but after today i am off for two weeks so won't be around to have my say. I've not already made the manager aware of how awkward this is for me because it's a weird situation, and the second time it has happened in this office, and i don't want it to seem like i'm full of myself. My only real recourse seems to be to send an email. Or does anyone else have any ideas. Edited by Rodimus-Prime at 10:25:04 12-05-2019 |
Work-related problem. Advice welcome.
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Rodimus-Prime 498 posts
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Frogofdoom 17,973 posts
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Registered 9 years agoBurn the place down and spend the rest of your life as Rodimus PI. Sailing the world on your sex barge solving the craziest of crimes whilst writing ice cream related fiction based on your capers. -
fontgeeksogood 12,913 posts
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Registered 3 years agoThis definitely sounds like good material for your ice cream comic, I say let it play out -
Is she fit or a munter? -
Rodimus-Prime 498 posts
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Registered 8 years agofontgeeksogood wrote:
Not an option. As i say, she isn't the first coworker to fall for me. The first one suffered from bipolar and went mental when she found out i had a girlfriend. I can't go through that again at work.
This definitely sounds like good material for your ice cream comic, I say let it play out
Frogofdoom wrote:
If i didn't need the money i would just quit and do that. Moonracer would have to be rebuilt, and i'd only really be able to sail around the local area as most of my PI work is currently related to catching benefit cheats.
Burn the place down and spend the rest of your life as Rodimus PI. Sailing the world on your sex barge solving the craziest of crimes whilst writing ice cream related fiction based on your capers.
I'm fairly confident in my ability to easily get another office job, but i'm actually respected by the main bosses here and as a result have influence well above my station... just not in HR matters unfortunately.
Addy__ wrote:
I'm not attracted to her at all, but this is mostly because of her personality.
Is she fit or a munter?
The only positive thing about her really is that she seems to have decent taste in men, but she's awful at the job, frequently takes personal calls and interjects in private conversations other staff are having even when she knows nothing about the subject matter.
No one likes her, and i know that others have already raised their concerns about having to partner with her. The difference is those people were explicitly asked... whereas i think i am seen as more passive and easygoing. -
fontgeeksogood 12,913 posts
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Registered 3 years agoRodimus-Prime wrote:
Just quoting so people know, Rod is a fucking stud.
As i say, she isn't the first coworker to fall for me.
The only positive thing about her really is that she seems to have decent taste in men
Did you ever get a blimp Rod -
fontgeeksogood 12,913 posts
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Registered 3 years agoIf you think about it, a blimp is pretty much the best PI vehicle -
Decks 31,013 posts
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Rodimus-Prime 498 posts
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Registered 8 years agoThose are just facts. Actual things that literally happened. I'm not trying to present myself as the Fonze or anything.
Just to relate things to gaming a bit, i think the first one took a shine to me because i was tasked with training her and she noticed i had an N7 keyring. She mentioned she was currently playing Dragon Age II, which is one of my all-time favourite games.
So i think between that, and the fact that i'm genuinely a pleasant, engaging and fun person to be around, and have amassed so much power and influence in the office, things just happened. -
Nazo 1,951 posts
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Registered 12 years agoAs a PI can’t you dig up some dirt on her and get her arrested? Everyone’s guilty of something. -
Decks 31,013 posts
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Registered 6 years agoI had to get rid of my Mass Effect keyring as woman kept knocking on my door and asking me to fuck them. -
fontgeeksogood 12,913 posts
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Registered 3 years agoDecks wrote:
This alone surely doesn't work. You also need to be powerful at work
I had to get rid of my Mass Effect keyring as woman kept knocking on my door and asking me to fuck them. -
Rodimus-Prime 498 posts
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Registered 8 years agoDecks, you wouldn't joke about that if you saw the key to my flat.
Chicks. Go. Wild.
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Rodimus-Prime wrote:
I'm guessing you have a massive cock as well?
Those are just facts. Actual things that literally happened. I'm not trying to present myself as the Fonze or anything.
Just to relate things to gaming a bit, i think the first one took a shine to me because i was tasked with training her and she noticed i had an N7 keyring. She mentioned she was currently playing Dragon Age II, which is one of my all-time favourite games.
So i think between that, and the fact that i'm genuinely a pleasant, engaging and fun person to be around, and have amassed so much power and influence in the office, things just happened. -
BigOrkWaaagh 10,554 posts
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StarchildHypocrethes 33,974 posts
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Rodimus-Prime wrote:
Magnum then? Not the ice cream, obvs.
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Dirt3 1,775 posts
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Registered 7 years agoHow does a home learning PI course actually work ?
Do they get you to hide behind the sofa or beat up a cushion or something ?
Edit : lesson 6. Creep round the garden at night dressed up in some black stuff. Lose 4 points if one of your neighbours calls the police.
Edited by Dirt3 at 11:47:48 12-05-2019 -
Baihu1983 14,378 posts
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fontgeeksogood 12,913 posts
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Registered 3 years agoYou could say all the ladies
/revs engine
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wobbly_Bob 5,162 posts
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Registered 15 years agoJust tell her something happened to your last partner you worked with then look into distance. It might be a good time to have a single tear streak down one cheek. Later reveal that she died. In a fire. In very mysterious circumstances... Tell her the police totally exonerated you. Well, lack of evidence to bring a case but that's the same right? Tell her you are so into her then mention you smell burning. Ask if she smells burning. At this point maybe laugh a bit and make sure it has a crazy edge to it. Every time you see her either hum "Fire starter" by the Prodigy or "Baby light my Fire" by the Doors.
She'll request a new partner. Case Solved! -
retro74 3,798 posts
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Registered 13 years agoSmells of bullshit so much it’s probably all true
If she’s already been warned about sexually harassing you then no employer is going to partner you up with her -
Rodimus-Prime 498 posts
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Registered 8 years agoI was led to believe that the warning was delivered in a sort of jokey way, while still being quite firm. We were all pretty wasted, and the woman who delivered the warning was filmed 'slut dropping' on the dance floor.
I'd like to believe that you're right Retro74. It is a compelling reason, but as i say, other people have been very vocal about not wanting to work with her. I'm worried that because it happened so long ago, and i've not made a big deal of how uncomfortable i am working with her, they'll just assume it's fine and put us together.
I'm working on my email at the moment. Will probably ask for advice before clicking send. Especially as i am told the last email i sent about my work-concerns made me seem like a snob. -
Load_2.0 33,582 posts
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Registered 18 years agoRodimus-Prime wrote:
Fucking whore.
It's also worth noting that at the Christmas party, the office manager warned her about sexual harassment when she tried to remove my jacket.
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BreadBinLidHero 10,801 posts
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Registered 12 years agoMustard on her anus? -
Frogofdoom 17,973 posts
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Registered 9 years agoGo full fight club, isolate yourself in a room with her. Then proceed to beat the shit out of yourself and get her sacked. -
DFawkes 32,785 posts
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Registered 16 years agoI'd just make it clear to management. It's awkward, but still a lot less awkward than if you end up paired up with her every single working day. Put it in writing if need be, making it clear that whilst you currently aren't comfortable with the situation as is, the fact you're not actively working with her makes it manageable.
This is just me though, I have no idea how you or the management there would react so if that's not viable I'm all out of ideas. -
Frogofdoom 17,973 posts
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Registered 9 years agoBless you Fawkes, it's not real. -
You'd think a PI would be better at this
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