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In such situations generally I: 1) grit teeth 2) avoid vices (especially expensive ones!) 3) attempt physical exercise 4) attempt various types of mental stimulation |
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MetalDog 24,076 posts
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Registered 20 years agoYou might want to quit the gambling nonsense until your head's straight. 800 quid? Jesus, that's the better part of a month's wages!
/slapslapslapslap
Has something happened recently to make you feel different or is it a genuine out of the blue dose of the blues? A door you always thought would be open has shut? A relationship change? Nothing like that? -
MetalDog 24,076 posts
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Registered 20 years agoSo what's knocked your confidence? Examine that and see if there's a way of dealing with it head on - depression tends to be worse when there's nothing you can do, or when you don't recognise the source. Dragging monsters out of the corners so you can see the zippers running up their backs is usually best. -
MetalDog 24,076 posts
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Registered 20 years agoYeah, take a mental health day. Get some sleep, /exercise/ instead of sitting around feeling like crap - trust me on that one, no matter how little you feel like doing it - and eat a curry for dinner. See how you feel the next day after two good nights sleep and a jump around. -
Load_2.0 33,582 posts
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Registered 18 years agoOr you might sit around feeling really guilty about not going to work and end up feeling worse about things. Push through chappie almost the weekend.
Be careful of that bored gambling. It got me in a lot of trouble. I know the feeling, win a bit of cash and then you can splash out on a few toys to alleviate the boredom/emptiness. Don't chase that loss either, I know that it's tempting. -
plok 1,296 posts
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Registered 16 years agoBeen feeling low and unmotivated a lot recently...well the last 18 months. Never hit me it could be depression at the time until was talking about it with a mate a couple of weeks back. Go to the NHS Direct site and BBC Health site for some good info on symptoms and advice.
General jist is exercise, eat well, talk about it. To be honest it took my girlfriend of over 2 years to give me the boot before I could talk about it, and I believe it to be the root cause of the relationship falling apart. I've been trying the last week to make a real effort to improve my lifestyle and simply being aware of it is already having positive effects on me. Good luck. -
AHiFi 1,667 posts
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Registered 16 years agoWell, dunno if this helps but, on getting out of a slum...I started this topic nearly a year ago. Not to sound all preachy, but I took control of my life and I cannot even think what was going through my head when I made this thread. Yes, I still have bad days - but I generally keep in control of myself.
I'm now with a new girlfriend who loves me for me, I feel like my own person again and I realised that things can change for you in life - you've just got to apply yourself. I'm not ever going to be 100% happy, but neither is anyone else regardless of what you've got, mental illness or what you haven't got.
I think you just need a change of routine. Try something new. Explore new life and new civilization (blatantly stolen from TNG). Do you have any active hobbies that get you out and about?
May I also just say - thanks so much to everyone who posted here in response to my original posting. You really helped me more than you think, and I won't forget it. -
reddevil93 15,997 posts
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Registered 14 years agoGlad to hear that AHiFi. -
I can't believe that is a now a year ago, just looked at my post. Time flies. -
heyyo 14,356 posts
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Registered 16 years agoI quit smoking cold turkey last Monday (was on 20 -25/day) and on Tuesday, Wednesday I was craving immensely, getting PISSED OFF by little things you know the drill.
Anyway, last night and all of today i've stopped craving but now I just feel really really depressed. It's like i've got a different mind, my mindset has changed and I don't think it'll change back to normal anytime soon even if I do smoke a cigarette.
This time last week I was really content and my surroundings haven't changed, just no smoking now. I got into a fight on Tuesday because I was craving/angry and it was (partly) my fault and I hurt him badly so that's weighing on my mind as well.
I hope it doesn't last long. -
AHiFi 1,667 posts
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Registered 16 years agoRPG-Lord: You're not 20 yet? Well, I can say that up until I turned 20...I felt the exact same as you do right now. Are you at school/college/Uni? What do you do with yourself most days?
Although, never had a double vision problem! You should certainly see about getting that sorted. Do you see enough sunlight? Keep active?
heyyo! - As much as this sounds odd, you need something else to replace the gap your cravings once filled. But something healthy and active.
Yeah, I know I'm preaching active a lot - but it is important. -
heyyo! wrote:
I quit smoking cold turkey last Monday (was on 20 -25/day) and on Tuesday, Wednesday I was craving immensely, getting PISSED OFF by little things you know the drill.
Anyway, last night and all of today i've stopped craving but now I just feel really really depressed. It's like i've got a different mind, my mindset has changed and I don't think it'll change back to normal anytime soon even if I do smoke a cigarette.
This time last week I was really content and my surroundings haven't changed, just no smoking now. I got into a fight on Tuesday because I was craving/angry and it was (partly) my fault and I hurt him badly so that's weighing on my mind as well.
I hope it doesn't last long.
It's all part of the process, your cravings will go in time. Apparently the first 3 weeks are the worst -
dufftownallan 4,723 posts
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Registered 15 years agoim on the happy pills now myself and i cant say theyve made things any better or worse, just my circumstances really. ive recently started a new job and parts of that new job are making me happy and other parts are getting me down. ive come home feeling great and ive come home feeling really shitty.
the only advice i could give to anyone who's suffering is just take every single day one at a time, take solace in the things that you do have and the people in your life who make things a wee bit better and just try to grind through it. motivation to do something WILL come, circumstances WILL change, and your life and mood WILL improve.
its strikes and gutters, personally my mood changes by the hour. i think the trick is to make the most of the better moods and just try to grind through the darker times. -
I never really noticed the affects of my magic brain pills till I stopped taking them. I guess I built up to a large(ish) dose over several months, so may not have noticed the effects. On the other hand, when I did stop I weaned myself off gradually and still ended up getting really depressed and nihilistic. So now i'm back on them and things seem OK. -
_Price_ 3,072 posts
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Registered 15 years agodisussedgenius wrote:
3) attempt physical exercise
This. Even if I'm ill / can't really be arsed, a quick run or training session gets me going again. Don't, whatever you do try some form of competitive activity though.... -
ShogunAssassin 471 posts
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Registered 14 years agoheyyo! wrote:
I quit smoking cold turkey last Monday (was on 20 -25/day) and on Tuesday, Wednesday I was craving immensely, getting PISSED OFF by little things you know the drill.
Anyway, last night and all of today i've stopped craving but now I just feel really really depressed. It's like i've got a different mind, my mindset has changed and I don't think it'll change back to normal anytime soon even if I do smoke a cigarette.
This time last week I was really content and my surroundings haven't changed, just no smoking now. I got into a fight on Tuesday because I was craving/angry and it was (partly) my fault and I hurt him badly so that's weighing on my mind as well.
I hope it doesn't last long.
I quit in the start of december, and trust me, itīll pass... Though I didnīt get in a fight with anyone, I did get easily pissed off. After the cravings comes the emptiness. Iīm not exactly sure if itīs the smokes causing it, but for the last couple of months Iīve felt extremely apathetic. The apathy is pretty much gone now, which I do think is because Iīve started working out regularly. I chew a lot of gum (non-nicotine), though, which Iīve used to fill in the gap after the smokes... -
The pressure of this final year has finally got to me. Been a really difficult few months and instead of tackling problems head on I've let them mount up.
I always do this, always. It's the classic tale really, apathy and lack of effort has cost me my girlfriend, possibly my degree and my health if I don't do something.
Strange, no matter how many times I get into this situation I fall back into it again and again despite telling myself that I'll improve. I've just gotten worse though, god knows how I passed last semester.
Eugh, I make myself cringe at times I really do, what happened to the passion and effort I used to pride myself on, lost it some time around the end of my GCSEs. Wish I could go back now and choose differerent A levels, if I fail my degree I won't blame my lack of effort now, but my lack of forsight way back then.
If I'd only chosen courses I really enjoyed I wouldn't be in this mess. Hell, I still had time to change part way through my first year, but I choked, I'd made such a hash of changing subjects in my A levels I decided to carry on with a course I wasn't enjoying, praying, hoping it'd get better.
How foolish, how stupid. Really all I can do now is push on and hope to pass, maybe I could have got a 2:1 but my latest fuck up has put paid to that, I wouldn't have deserved it anyway.
It's funny, it feels as though all that effort I put into GCSEs and even SATs was a big fat waste of time. I fluked good A level results but who will even care how I did in them if I fuck this? No one, it doesn't matter. I burnt myself out academically far too early. All that matters is the here and now. Friends who I'd regularly outperform academically in my school years are now far more successful than me, I feel like I've wasted everything.
I used to think I was intelligent, above average at least, so funny to look back at the way I used to think of myself, in primary and secondary school especially. How deluded.
I need to get out of this vicious circle, but everytime I beat one problem I give myself too long to recover, I should be tearing into everything, not patting myself on the back for a job half done and putting all else on the back burner.
Not real depression, no one needs to tell me I'm a whining, lazy twat. I just needed to put it down in words, makes me feel better.
Shame, I'm becoming far more insular and guarded than I was in my first few weeks of uni, back then I had loads and loads of mates in halls and all was good.
However, what I should have realised is that halls are only temporary...whilst I was busy going out with hall mates and having a fantastic time I pretty much ignored everyone on the course. That puts me in a terrible situation now, with all my hall friends living so spread out I only go out once a week if I'm lucky. I get hardly any contact with people on my course, hell, my best mate from my course I met this term!
Not as strange as you think though, my course is made up of a range of modules from other courses so I'm constantly moving departments, a real pain as they all stick together whilst I join in for a few units a year then bugger off.
My temper has taken a real hit too, as anyone I've played with on Live! will tell you I get pissed off at the slightest thing. Unfortunately that sort of applies to reality now aswell. I used to be fairly mellow but around family especially I'm becoming increasingly argumentative. I actually swore at my sister for the first time in years and years on holiday, I got really nasty, really frustrated and the worst thing was it was my error that caused the argument.
I would say I need a holiday, but I had one and that didn't help.
It's funny, one of my mates said it best recently. They're getting a round the world ticket for their 21st birthday "I really need a break from 3 years of doing nothing".
That's what I feel like at the moment, 3 years of doing very little (especially compared to the full time work I did over the summer and school years) and yet I'm more stressed, more depressed and feel under more pressure than at any time in my life. -
chronom4n 529 posts
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Registered 17 years agoi had some similiar experiences as you mention inquisitor, but i have found that a course of acupuncture has really helped to no end. now even if i try to get angry i just find it difficult. -
Nostrus 376 posts
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Registered 14 years agoI watched a program the other night on meditation, and it appears that it has some serious effects on depression. It might be worth investigating this with your doctor/GP as it is becoming increasingly available on the NHS.
One woman had been clinically depressed since her teens and had been on the maximum dosage of medication she could take. After taking classes in meditation, they've been able to cut her to under half the minimum dose.
I know that it sounds a bit "airy fairy" but surely anything that can help is worth investigating? -
tedster11 575 posts
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Registered 18 years agoAHiFi wrote:
Hey there. Just need somewhere to post. I've been battling depression for about five years and I've been unhappy for the majority of my life. Today, is the worst though. I have a Uni essay due in tomorrow which I haven't even started, my girlfriend wants us to be friends (it's because of me being depressed/bipolar) - but she is visiting me tomorrow, so I hope I can talk her out of it somehow and a phone call to my Mum didn't help. She told me I wasn't trying hard enough at University instead of telling me that everything's gonna be okay.
I was close to cutting my wrists today and wanted to od on paracetamol and die like the dog I am. Did neither, wish I had though. I've been crying for about 6 hours straight now. Waited on my girlfriend to phone all day and I got four minutes off her. I'm so sad; I'm lost.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else has a bad day too?
EDIT: At 20, I'm certainly not old. But I'm so lonely on this Earth.
Edited by AHiFi at 19:48:32 25-03-2007
Dude only read your post here, but sure there's loads of good advice from others.
My tip, I've had some bad times throughout my life too. The best advice I could give is do what inspires you most. Don't dwell on negatives.
For me I like travelling, plan something to look forward to and experience things from a totally new culture. The world is too fascinating not to explore. You have to overcome difficulties regardless how difficult it is to find immediate support. Things will get better. If I chose to dwell on negatives then tomorrow I'll be equally pissed off/unhappy. If I chose to ignore the negatives/learn from them then that's progress and achievement. That's important to recognise as it in turn leads to self belief and a feeling of pride. Set some long term and short terms goals, they're all good.
Get that back in your life and you can overcome bad times. Life is full of ups and downs, but they're never spread out evenly so keep fighting for the good times! -
it's just struck me from scanning through this thread that there's a lot of stress on exams and coursework at university. I remember getting pretty much worked up at that time in my life too. But I got a 2.2, was pissed off i didn't make the 2.1 and then a couple of years later got a Msc to make up for it. Years later frankly the two degrees don't matter too much and work experience has completely outweighed what they're worth. What i'm trying to say is your degree may seem like it's the biggest thing in your life but it won't be in a couple of years. Your biggest choices arn't even choices. i reckon they're chances that come along in your working life and it's those you've got to recognise and grab.
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